January 22, 2019

Often times we find ourselves constantly separating from others; without coming to a realization that the negativity we can't give rid of is within ourselves. 

Have you ever deleted someone from your social media account because they're constantly posting something you disapproved? 

Maybe you've distanced yourself from some of your family members and friends because you thought they were toxic? 

My p...

June 21, 2018

Your position in life will be threatened if you allow the beliefs and opinions of other people to diminish your perspective.

In life, we are faced with a brick wall of negativity when we share our dreams and goals with a close friend or family member who is cynical about our capacity to achieve success.

When working on a new goal, it is crucial to avoid negative people around you as it enables you to embrace positive connections...

February 17, 2018

As a culture, we demand the basic human rights of freedom from violence, oppression, physical threat, and discrimination. Rejection is a fact of life and reality for all human beings from time to time.

Whether you were rejected as a child in school, recent job application or marriage proposal-rejection is a very real and profound emotion which affects everyone differently. But then everyone finds rejection as a bruise to his o...

January 7, 2018

Have you ever had that ugly cry, like you could barely breathe and your life was being jeopardized? Then someone walks over and instead of comforting you, they state, "Why the f*ck are you crying?". That feeling of guilt and discomfort afterwards, is exactly how I felt after reading these self-help books.

1. Fuck feelings by Bennett MD

Fuck feelings is not actually about disregarding your emotions. Dr. Bennet...

I am Chelsea Lynn Davis! A BLACK, BIG, WOMAN and I’m in a relationship with a woman. Society labels us as lesbians, however the gay community adds more labels and stereotypes that don't represent everyone in the community.

When people in the LGBT community know that you are gay, they often ask “What are you, the dyke, the lip stick dyke, or transgender?” I was like its labels to this shit? I'm just gay but...

December 30, 2017

 When we hold on to those old stories we tell ourselves about being less than, we relinquish our physiological energy into something that we created; which detracts us from accomplishing our goals.

It's always easier to practice guilt and complicit thoughts, than to work through the difficulties of accomplishing your dreams.

I didn't understand this concept until my late 40's, when I had to accept r...

November 9, 2017

With this generations need for validation, an engagement or wedding is quickly seen as an immediate need, rather than self progression (going to school, owning a business and accomplish all other personal goals).

I wanted a wedding, the dress, the orchestra playing, the huge cake but not once did I think about the ideology of marriage.

The wedding is an occasion where you began your commitment with the one you lov...

October 23, 2017

 "When he touched my genitals, my skin crawled because he was dismissing my power".

"He took my innocence, so why was I so ashamed, maybe because I thought I was the problem, maybe I needed to change".

" A family member saw that she was an innocent child, with no care in the world, so he took that freedom so now she cares about the littlest things".

" She grabbed his genitals and chuckled as if...

July 26, 2017

  The day I was notified of my father's stroke, brought the most unforeseen emotions that you'd expect from a daughter. There I was standing in disbelief as I was talking to this man I havent seen in almost two years. Although I was praying that he would make it through this difficult time, I couldn't help but think of the time we wasted being upset than getting to know each other. 

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June 25, 2017

     I was raised to believe in the mission and vision of the Baptist church and not necessarily being connected to God. How is that possible you ask? Well, being a member of my childhood church consisted of abiding by rules that I believe no human could execute perfectly. The pastor would preach hate and judgmental speeches and then state "God told me to tell you...." I'm sure his life is not perfect, but the speeches ha...

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